Perfectionism, stress and guilt
What if it was all about experiencing it all?
I come from a family of entrepreneurs, hard workers.
When I was an employee, I used to get very loyal. Loyal to the point that I would cross my own boundaries *for the higher good / the good of the company*.
I would dream about my work, work long hours and think about work often at breakfast or around dinner time. °
I do believe this is a combination of societal and family values alongside my tendency to people pleasing.
I feel like there are people who can perfectly do their work and think about their work ONLY when they're at the workplace.
I was conditioned to believe that those people didn't care.
According to what l've learned: They didn't feel responsibility, they didn't feel passion, they were only there to make the money that would pay for the things they did care about after work hours.
My parents had some difficult employees and I always heard the side of the employer. I was loyal. A loyal daughter and a loyal employee.
In the Disney movie Pinocchio a sly fox comes and seduces/ kidnaps Pinocchio to go to pleasure island, where every day is a holiday. My dad used to always tell us this story. "It's not real, you can't chase pleasure and relaxation." Eventually, when the children in the movie would arrive at pleasure island, they would be put to work in a factory, they would turn into donkeys. A pretty picture was painted, a beautiful promise was made, but reality was a very bitter pill to swallow.
Either way, I know far too many people who believe they can't relax and enjoy unless everything is perfect (which is never btw). If they do permit themselves to rest or enjoy pleasure they're meanwhile punishing themselves internally because "they don't deserve it". Combine that with these societal rules and people pleasing tendencies and your health and wellbeing is in danger.
What I have been doing in Mexico has been deconditioning:
from long held beliefs, ancestral beliefs, that we must always be productive.
from the idea that I only have value when I produce something or am of service to others.
Rewiring my relationship with rest, relaxation and pleasure.
You want to release control and stress?
You want to take more care of your physical and mental health?
You want to give yourself relaxation and experience pleasure without guilt?
Are you a woman?
Comment or contact me to show me you're interested.
